‘FIRST BORNS’, LET ME COOK.

The ‘first born’ conversation is really trending right now. Its one of those things you can not change you accept and move as is. Having that in mind, with grace and favor we never lack. We hope and move with delusion sometimes that everything will be okay , and for some reason it does. Welcome to the writers column, my little nook in this magazine.

The Kitchen is where all my dreams are made, very poetical but it is true. One of your responsibility for example; is to cook, gender not withstanding. So cooking you shall, because your Family depends on it from a very young age. The kitchen sorts of become your favorite place to be. Some of the best chefs are self taught by the way. It is the making of the lemonade, when life throws you a lemon.

The first blog I ever wrote was on lemonades, because I was making them and selling them literally. I found my peace in the kitchen. Cooking stops becoming your duty, to more of an art. Making chicken the same way all the time can be boring . So you experiment until you have about twenty two ways of making chicken. Maybe pass down a recipe, write a book, or open a business.

When you need clarity you bake a cake, you need reassurance you stir fry, and when you need to ease you make some soup. It is not always the same for everyone, maybe it is in the cleaning, farming. Duties that became art, that became a source of income even. As said, ‘first born’ will never lack as long as you sent your mind to it and put FAITH.

Nonetheless, it doesn’t matter which born you are, everyone has their one way of life, it is what makes us different. It is heavy on 3rd born somewhere. It is not always about which number but who has heavier responsibility. Thus, the more responsibility you have, you cant always lead from a heavy duty, a heavy heart. Find joy in the things you do, find joy in providing. Lay structures and boundaries that ease it out. As said, it is one of those things you find yourself in and move as it is.